BDE Moves
Sex Education & Pleasure Coaching
BDE Moves helps you shift your mindset from performance to pleasure. We offer sex education & pleasure coaching to the general population. The ultimate goal is to create a judgment free space for humans to feel safe being curious
Below are the three most common ways to work with Whitni!
1:1 Coaching
Would you like to work with BDE Moves – Whitni to feel empowered in your own pleasure independently or with a partner? Schedule a 1:1 Coaching session with her or schedule a session with her & your partner(s) to have deeply empowering conversation surrounding your pleasure, breakdown barriers, & increase your understanding of yourself and/or each other.
Workshops
Attend a workshop when they are offered. Join BDE Moves – Whitni at one of her workshops: Shifting From Performance to Pleasure Based Sex, D/s Dynamic 101, Late Blooming Lesbian – Sex Ed, Navigating Responsive Desire, Self Pleasure. Attend live, ask questions, learn directly from her, & get empowered in your pleasure. She will answer questions, help you think deeply about your own experiences, & encourage you to shift your mindset. Want to simply watch it on your own? Easy, purchase access to a recording of the workshop to learn on your own time.
*Late Blooming Lesbian – Sex Ed workshop is for October 4th 7:30-10pm EST is SOLD OUT
To get an email next time one of her other workshops is offered complete the form linked below:
Subscriptions…
Want to explore on your own? Subscribe to Whitni’s Patreon or “Educational Accounting” options to access all the uncensored educational content Whitni offers, or purchase a “Spicy Accounting” subscription to access Whitni’s exclusive boudoir content. More info can be found here:
About BDE Moves
Whitni Miller, CEO of BDE Moves, focuses on sex education & pleasure coaching specializing in queer sex & relational communication. She uses Instagram & TikTok to disseminate pleasure centered, sex education to the general population. Whitni is trauma-informed, kink-informed, & utilizes her yoga philosophy background to facilitate healing that empowers her clients to own their pleasure. Her goal is to expand our knowledge & understanding of intimacy, sex, arousal, desire, & all the in between. Ultimately creating a judgment free space for humans to feel safe being curious.
Performance Based
- Penetration (w/a penis, fingers, or dildo) is the main event
- Sex ends with ejaculation
- Often includes rigid expectations of partners or own body
- May feel like sex is following a script or routine
- May feel anxious about not having an orgasm
- May feel anxious about not satisfying a partner
- May include tolerating pain or discomfort
- Limited clear communication
- Feeling “Stuck in your head”
*Source – Pleasure Centered Sexology
Pleasure Based
- Includes multiple activities
- Agreement of what sex includes is decided in collaboration
- Regular check-ins
- Orgasm is a bonus not centra/ required
- May include use of all body parts & accessories
- Arousal allowed to come before desire
- Does not require or expect anything from any persons body (eg bodily response, specific body type, ability or skill level)
- Ends when any person wants it to end
- May look different each time or include regular pleasurable activities
- Focus on physical sensations